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Lessons From Porn: Part 1


Porn, regardless of the opinion anyone may have on the matter, is sought after and consumed by many. Porn literacy is unfortunately lacking, and along with the lackluster, nonexistent or detrimental sex education many youth get, pornography consumption may lead to distorted views about sex and intimacy. Here are some lessons to learn from porn:


  1. Vulvas are not all pink or look the same. Although it should be logical to infer that vulvas’ colors and shapes are as unique as the people they are attached to, many porn watchers may develop unreasonable, unrealistic and unattainable expectations of a body part that cannot be easily changed. Easy victims are those who have not been taught the right information or exposed to educational sexual anatomy.

  2. Penises are not all 7 inches and longer. Many men become insecure after they compare themselves with guys who they see in porn. The less people know about sex and the human body, the easier it is to fall for unrealistic ideals of what penises (should) look like based on specific representations abundant in the media. Like vulvas, all penises are as different as those who own them.

  3. Not all women like to be ejaculated on, especially on the face. Many men believe that, just like in porn, the women they may be intimate with would enjoy receiving men’s semen in the form of facials. This expectation may not only be unrealistic; it may lead to many disagreements and disappointments. The best way to know what a sexual partner likes during sex is to ask them. Communication before, during and after sex is key and nothing should happen without explicit consent.

  4. Not all people love to be penetrated hard. Again, different people may like different sexual acts delivered in a myriad of ways. Hard and deep penetration is not for everyone, especially if it causes pain or discomfort.

  5. Not all men enjoy receiving oral sex. This may come as a surprise for many but, truly, not all men enjoy fellatio and that is OK.


There are many more lessons to learn from porn. More to come. Remember, porn may be a masturbation aid, the starter for arousal, or used to spice things up in the bedroom with a partner. But most porn is not a good sex instructions manual and should not be a substitute for factual, scientifically and medically correct, and evidence based comprehensive sex education.




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